Sick & Tired

i'm just sick and tired of putting all my effort into something and have it turn out to be so perfect and then it just gets taken away like a snap of my fingers
.. everything.. work.. school.. this retarted excuse of a relationship that i was working on the fact its been what.. 2.. 3 years... and yet somehow why am I not over adam?! Probably explains why it hurts so much when I kept myself so gaurded for so long and let one single person in a little.. they came moved into my heart and just up and left.. "oh me and my x are about to get back together and it'll help if you don't call or text me.. but its ok if you stop by the shop"... i can't call or text him.. but when I need him to help me like yesterday he's there... when i go out of my way up to the shop where he works we have a great time while he works.. just great times and conversation.. like nothing is wrong.. then reality kicks in.. why the heck am i doing this when he's treating me this way.. why do i sign myself up for this?!
the more people.. not just guys i meet the more i like my dogs I keep rereading my poem of why i'm single.. trying to build my walls back up trying to harden up trying to reassure myself that things will pan out... this is not the end.. you won't end up along like your 84 year old grandma who lives by herself and is going crazy inside her house of which she refuses to get out of.. admist all your friends who are already having kids and getting married... things will pan out but its not looking that way..

They say you need to make yourself whole and be happy with yourself before somebody will want you.. which is true and understandable... But how do I fill this deep black abyss of a hole? God? New friends? Getting more physically fit? Better job?